Living With the Unresolved

I want people to behave. I want circumstances to turn out according to my plans. And yes, sometimes when I pray I have to resist the urge to outline for God a suggestion of how He could go about answering my prayers, as if He, the creator of the universe, needs my advice. Thankfully, I recognize this tendency and am usually able to head it off when I see it coming. 

The truth is, sometimes life doesn't cooperate with me. People have free will that doesn't always coincide with mine. Stuff happens on a daily basis that wasn't on my well planned to-do list. Sometimes God doesn't cooperate either, at least from my limited human viewpoint that only sees a tiny glimpse of the bigger picture that He sees. In that case I've learned that whatever happens is always for the better in the end and I'll get there quicker if I don't resist His plan so much. 

But sometimes things happen out of our control that cause pain and are never resolved. It comes in many forms whether it be as abuse from someone who won't admit they've done anything wrong, being falsely accused of something and not being given the chance to defend oneself, having a well-intentioned attempt to help someone see truth be utterly rejected, or have an apology not be acknowledged.

I have learned to live with the unresolved as the Lord shows me that part of life on this earth means co-existing with issues that have no closure and people I can't control.

Many things in life don't fit neatly on a checked-off list. The best I can do at times is to just fence in the unresolved so it doesn't migrate and take over other parts of my life. Letting go isn't easy and some things will never completely go away but I can say to myself "I've done all I can with this" and leave it in God's hands.